With the relationship of human beings, it tends to be one of the essential things that every human beings should uphold. The fact that with a good relationship, there will be cohesion and integration amongst them tends to be the reason for this. Basically, a relationship, whether between family members or friends is built through a series of events. There is tendency of this not to be something that just happens in a day. There must be something good done so that a good and strong relationship to be build. For example, when a loved one is in a certain situation that may need assistance, then you can make yourself available to that person and offer a hand of assistance. After such assistance is offered, then the person helped will learn to appreciate whatever you’ve done to them, hence increasing the relationship. This aspect of being there for each other and giving a hand of assistance is what in the modern days is called, holding space for someone.
One of the aspects that should be respected when holding space for someone is that the decision of the person being helped is always valid. In this, it is essential to offer a room for the person being assisted to express his or her own thoughts, feelings and attitudes towards the matter at hand. Listening keenly when you are holding space for other person is as well an aspect that you should observe and maintain. This assures the persona that whatever he or she is saying is valid and all the decisions made are valid. After giving the persona the required space for to express himself or herself, then you can hand in the advice or the best assistance for you to have a common interest and goal to the problem.
The other tip for holding space is by being aware that your actions as well as reactions are based on the internal emotions as well as the kind of judgment patterns that you may not be aware of at all. The individual, while listening to other individuals should ensure that they are not able to portray or rather show their emotions that would otherwise relay another message that would have a negative message to the individual who they are listening to. Additionally, the individual should be able to avoid asking the questions that would make the conversation to break while the individual is still talking.
With holding space, it requires the individual to avoid becoming defensive or even avoid from portraying that they are interested in finding the solution to the problem. The work of the individual is not to come up with or rather to bring a solution to the problem of the individual.